happy 10..

oh yeah you dont celebrate those.

a rare species

i know you're supposed to treat others the way you want to be treated. i know, i know. but what happens when you "kill'em with kindness" and get nothing nice in return?!i'm not focused on the act of receiving something back, i just wanna know where all the genuinely considerate and polite people have gone!

??

either i'm really old school, or these people have become veryyy hard to find.. maybe even extinct. to come in contact with one is like a diamond in the rough!

everyone seems to be too busy, preoccupied with other things, or focused on themselves. or they simply don't care. or perhaps the media has influenced them (have you listened to the radio lately?!) there could be a bajillion factors that come into play with the extinction of this species. there is no single answer.

i haven't seen anyone trying to fix this - all except maybe Ne-yo, who brought out Year of the Gentleman. (this could be based on your taste in music. i personally like r&b) in his lyrics, he was thoughtful enough to appreciate the other person, instead of himself. (miss independent). or in other tracks, (these tracks were not on the US albums) such as "in the way" and "what's the matter". if you listen to the lyrics, you can see his genuine consideration for everyone but himself. hence, the gentleman title.

[oh and this dude i follow on twitter, @treatwomenright. his name says it all]

i'm not saying stop paying attention to yourself. of course, we all have to focus on ourselves too. please, take a shower. please, brush your teeth. please, do your homework first! please, prioritize realistically. but, when you have another encounter, even just a smile can go a long way.. maybe make somebody's day. it doesn't hurt!

or just being polite

at my work, i usually start with a "hello, how are you?" and they would respond with a "fine thanks how are you?" and while i'm saying "i'm fiii-" they'd cut me off saying "deposit please". everytime i get those, i feel like they skipped the appetizer and went straight for the entree. saying it "just to say it" has no feeling, no heart involved! i know, it's a bank.. that's what we do.. but what i'm trying to say is subconsciously acknowledging the other person does not count.

from that point, we drag on with the day. one boring person after the next.. rude, heartless, non-existent.

i'm sure there are times where you've been invited to someone's birthday, but they didn't make the time for yours. or when you've spotted somebody for dinner, and you haven't heard from them since. or when you would drive far distances for a friendship/relationship, (literally and figuratively), yet they wouldn't drive as far for you. or when you make the effort, and they don't. or when you do your homework, and someone just copies off yours.

BECAUSE OF THOSE REASONS there are people out there who AREN'T considerate enough of others... we're sick and tired of not being treated the way we want to be treated.. which is why (epiphany) the polite/thoughtful/gentleman species has become extinct!

reviving this generation will take some time and patience. being one amongst many can brainwash you back into the crowd. but please, think otherwise! bring this species back!

have a heart!

quick to judge.

sometimes you can't rely on one-sided perspectives. if you take the time to view your situation in a different light, it's not so bad after all!

1) everything isn't always based off first impression.

(although first impressions mean a LOT; i'd have to save that for another blog). i am a firm believer in second chances... so just wait it out for a bit longer! let the brand new friendship marinate for a bit, and wait for their true colors to come out. naturally.

2) so their true colors show. now what.

from here, you can decide if you want to go on with this person or not, cuz by this time, you'd already have a good idea of your future friendship. if you're liking it, that's a green light. (for those of you who might not know, green light = go for it). if not, well...

3) think about it this way.

maybe to you, you personally wouldn't want to be close friends with this person. but think aside for a second.. this is how this person naturally is. in short, "it is what it is" or "it be like that sometimes". lol. it might be difficult for some, but try to accept this person for who he/she is. for example, say i don't want to be friends with a coke addict who sniffs on a weekly basis. but, if i accept that person as a sniffer and get to know the true person inside, they're not so bad after all. or, say i just met a super valley girl like omg totally. if i muted out all her like's, omg's, and totally's, perhaps i could get to know her as a friend, and not somebody who i would have originally ignored.

however, in some cases, there there are clear distinctions of why this person is not a good "friend" candidate. of course you don't want to make friends with a rapist, convict, pedophile, etc..! let's be logical here! you always have a choice!

lol

4) why miss out on a possible friendship?

don't let your judgement get in the way of your possible friendship. (or any other person's judgement). take the one-on-one approach and get to know the person. "all the bullshit to the side"

nevertheless,

the more the merrier!

=)